CHAPTER 3
Re: Thanks
This chapter is one that is personal to me, on some level. At least, it's something I've experienced hands on and something that should never happen again, if people had facebook etiquette. Here's the story:
This friend, though now I'm on the verge of demoting her to the title of "acquaintance", had her birthday. Her name popped up on the right side bar of my facebook homepage indicating that today is her birthday. I clicked on her name and sincerely wished her a happy birthday (with exclamation mark (!)), along with her other wishes from her other friends. All was good until the day she decided to thank people for the birthday wishes. She sent thank you wall posts to only a few people, me excluded.
Do you see where this is going? No, it is not a case of bitter jealousy for not receiving a thank you note as well. Definitely is not. The issue on hand here is the fact that by not acknowledging other people who wished you a happy birthday on an equal scale like the other people you did send a thank you note to is simply rude. Also, the pattern of people you responded to is inconsistent. Some are your close friends while others are acquaintances. That is a no-no!
So here's my two cents in all of that:
Rule of Thumb - If you're going to thank people for their warm and thoughtful birthday wishes, you either thank everyone, no one at all, or a general thank you to the population in your status update. It's clear, it makes sense and no one is left out, just the way it should always be.
The theory is that the people who wishes you a happy birthday are often people you have some sort of relationship with and who really cares that today is the day you were born, hence why they took the time to type you a birthday note. I don't see why you should thank one person and not the other. To refer back to Chapter 2, a 'like' can constitute a pleasant and duty-free way to express your appreciation without having to pour your hear out to some people you more or less know. There are options out there which one can take to advance his/her personal social networking politeness.
Do you want to be trashy? Or would you rather be classy? If your name is not Tila Tequila, I believe you've picked the latter and want to be classy. In that case, the proper etiquette in instances of thank you notes in regards to birthday wishes that you receive on the day of your birth, is to always remember to take in consideration everyone that indeed wished you a happy birthday in the form of the three options laid down in the Rule of Thumb. Follow it, 'like' it and you are on your way to classiness!
More chapters to come...
This friend, though now I'm on the verge of demoting her to the title of "acquaintance", had her birthday. Her name popped up on the right side bar of my facebook homepage indicating that today is her birthday. I clicked on her name and sincerely wished her a happy birthday (with exclamation mark (!)), along with her other wishes from her other friends. All was good until the day she decided to thank people for the birthday wishes. She sent thank you wall posts to only a few people, me excluded.
Do you see where this is going? No, it is not a case of bitter jealousy for not receiving a thank you note as well. Definitely is not. The issue on hand here is the fact that by not acknowledging other people who wished you a happy birthday on an equal scale like the other people you did send a thank you note to is simply rude. Also, the pattern of people you responded to is inconsistent. Some are your close friends while others are acquaintances. That is a no-no!
So here's my two cents in all of that:
Rule of Thumb - If you're going to thank people for their warm and thoughtful birthday wishes, you either thank everyone, no one at all, or a general thank you to the population in your status update. It's clear, it makes sense and no one is left out, just the way it should always be.
The theory is that the people who wishes you a happy birthday are often people you have some sort of relationship with and who really cares that today is the day you were born, hence why they took the time to type you a birthday note. I don't see why you should thank one person and not the other. To refer back to Chapter 2, a 'like' can constitute a pleasant and duty-free way to express your appreciation without having to pour your hear out to some people you more or less know. There are options out there which one can take to advance his/her personal social networking politeness.
Do you want to be trashy? Or would you rather be classy? If your name is not Tila Tequila, I believe you've picked the latter and want to be classy. In that case, the proper etiquette in instances of thank you notes in regards to birthday wishes that you receive on the day of your birth, is to always remember to take in consideration everyone that indeed wished you a happy birthday in the form of the three options laid down in the Rule of Thumb. Follow it, 'like' it and you are on your way to classiness!
More chapters to come...
Haha references to Tila Tequila, because she's amazing! Amazingly trashy!! Which I love.
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Keep those chapters coming!